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Embrace the Difficulty Now

Have you ever felt like life is just too hard? Like, you have to try every day just to get things done and not get crushed under the weight of the world?

I bet you have. Most of us have. At one point or another, we’ve all felt like we have so much going on that we might as well just give up and stop trying. What’s the point in all this hard work if it never gets any easier? Shouldn’t life be about happiness? Why do I have to deal with all this misery? Why can’t I only have good things?

We all prefer it when life is good. When there are no pressing issues, no unresolved tensions, no impending deadlines. Unfortunately, life is rarely like this. There is always something lurking behind the corner, giving us a fright, stressing us out.

Sometimes, it might even feel like the rare moments of pure bliss we get are just the calm before the storm. The little respite we’re allowed before things get worse again.

But this view on life isn’t healthy for us. It isn’t right, either. Life isn’t divided into happy times and difficult times. Life isn’t divided at all. Life is just life. It’s beautiful in all its facets, and we have to embrace all of it.

Think about this for a second: Would you really, truly want to be happy all the time?

You might feel like the answer to that question is an obvious ‘yes.’ Who wouldn’t want to be happy all the time? It sounds like paradise, doesn’t it?

But consider this: What would your life look like if you never knew struggle? If you were always happy and never experienced sadness, fear, or anger? I bet it wouldn’t be half as interesting as it is right now.

More importantly, it wouldn’t really be your life anymore. You, as you are now, wouldn’t exist if you never went through all the difficulties that you’ve faced so far.

Think back to some of the more difficult times in your life. Were you a lonely child that always felt like you didn’t really belong? That must’ve been hard. But it’s probably also impacted how you are now, as an adult.

Because of that loneliness, chances are that you’re now much friendlier and more considerate when it comes to other people. You’re more likely to befriend that new, shy colleague at your workplace. You’ve become a better listener and friend to people because you know how important friendship is. You went through a period of time when you didn’t have a support system, and it has made you the incredible human being that you are now.

More than that, though, it has also made you more appreciative of the people in your life. Knowing what it feels like to be lonely has doubled the happiness you feel when you are around people that love you. 

You’re happier now because of that challenging experience. You don’t take your friends for granted because you know that they aren’t a guarantee in everyone’s life. Without knowing what it is like to be alone, you wouldn’t feel quite as lucky as you do now that you have people around you.

That miserable feeling in your childhood has made you a happier adult. Someone that can see and appreciate the true value of friendship. Someone that cherishes every moment they get with the people they love.

This is obviously just an example, but a very real one. It illustrates why difficulty is important in life – why it isn’t just something to get over. Why it’s also something to be grateful for.

Everyone goes through hard times. No one gets to be happy all the time. But that’s a good thing. Because that difficulty is what makes life worth living. It’s what makes the good times feel so good.

You can’t understand sheer joy without knowing pain, too. If you have nothing to compare your happiness to, you might not even recognize it as happiness in the first place.

Life isn’t divided into good and bad. All of our experiences are important – even the painful ones. It might help to think about it all as “context.”

Context makes you appreciate what you have. It also makes you realize that the difficulty isn’t everlasting. It isn’t all there is to life. It’s just part of it.

Life would be boring if it was just one-note happiness. It would be uninteresting and monotone. No one really wants to be bored this way. We all want to live life to its fullest, and that includes everything – love, hate, anger, joy, pain, and happiness.

If you want to live a truly happy life, you need to stop fighting the difficulty. Embrace it instead. Take all those difficult times for what they are: Lessons. Mistakes. Memories you might laugh at in a couple of years.

By being more open to difficulty, you will also become more open to happiness. Knowing that there is no avoiding sadness sometimes is actually a good way to cope with the sadness. Sometimes, there is no avoiding it. But that’s okay. You’re allowed to feel sad every now and then.

The sooner you embrace the difficulty, the sooner you realize that happiness is just around the corner. Life isn’t dark with glimpses of happiness. Life is complex. It’s difficult, and it’s beautiful. When you embrace all of it, only then you’ll truly get to see the real value behind it all.

 

 

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